Yep, we are back to this topic.
After the exciting sedations of Stop Saying Yes To Shit You Hate & Stop Saying Yes To Shit You Despise, here I am scribbing listening to Green Parakeets eating their breakfast in my backyard (which means the apples on the trees 😉 I actually based my whole new book THE SOVEREIGN FEMININE : GODDESS CONSCIOUSNESS FOR THE MODERN WOMAN (don’t worry Gents, I will be writing one for you as well) on this topic.
STOP BEING A SHEEP.
Society encourages us to play small, be nice, all those ridiculous things, because God Forbid your toes stepped on someone’s feet WHERE THEY NEED TO BE FUCKING STEPPED ON.
I should know this well.
All people who are sensitive on the emotional spectrum starting with myself (yes, HSP’s – Highly Sensitive People, Empaths, Clairsentients — basically us feeling people who LOVE, GIVE, and FEEL SO MUCH KINDNESS FOR OTHERS), need HARD boundaries to LOVE THEMSELVES FIRST. Having respect for yourself, doesn’t mean you’re an obnoxious asshole who goes round making other people’s life hell for whatever reason. It still means you’re helpful, loving, kind, grateful, positive, and incredible.
A lot of people who are Sensitive, are so, because we have suffered IMMENSE amounts of abuse, trauma, neglect, abandonment and there is a sense of disquieting LONELINESS inside us that we feel can be filled up by just having people around us. So what do we do? People Please. Someone asks us this — OH YES, WE ARE READY. Doesn’t matter how badly our body cries and says NO, you’re ready for bullshit because that’s the only way you feel someone will ever love you. You just want someone around you so you do not feel alone.
This is the deal. You’re not empowered by ALL the leeches and users in your life, and I may (or may not) know you VERY personally, but I guarantee you that most people in your life are users who drain your money, your energy, your time, and do not leave you feeling LIT UP like a Christmas tree. So here is how it goes when you’re learning to implement your boundaries. You’re not mean and selfish for saying no, and you’re going to say NO more often to any and all assorted nonsense that people bring your way. The first NO you say, will be the hardest and shakiest NO you will have ever said. If I know you personally, drop me a message on my phone or send me a Sparty Love Note here and I will encourage you. If you don’t know me personally, come BACK and read this blog after bookmarking it when you need someone to keep reminding you that YOU AND YOUR NO, MATTERS.
Your life isn’t in vain, and you don’t have to spend 10 years “what do people think of me?“. Stop this programming. Stop trying to tip-toe around people and just think “being positive” is going to get you shit in life. No it does not, and do not delude yourself. In matters of Love, Life, and War — One should be as REALISTIC as possible. Carry a positive attitude and do not hesitate to remind someone, they came incorrect to you because what you TOLERATE, CONTINUES. Do not let your Kindness and Love by the reason that you cannot find the courage to say NO.
NO IS A COMPLETE SENTENCE ALL WITHIN ITSELF.
KEEP USING IT.
REAP THE REWARDS OF BEING SOVEREIGN AND FREE. YOU’RE NOT OBLIGED TO BE ANYONE’S DOORMAT, THEY CAN FIND SOMEWHERE ELSE TO WIPE THEIR FEET. YOU’RE NOT AN ON-CALL THERAPIST, AND YOU’RE CERTAINLY NOT THERE TO BE WRUNG OUT LIKE TODAY’S WASHING ON THE LINE OUTSIDE.
YOU ARE WHOLE, BEAUTIFUL, INCREDIBLE, AND POWERFUL.
Stop giving useless leeches power over you. Let people think of you what they will, what someone else thinks of you is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. Mind your own, mind your NO — and live a prosperous, empowered life.
Because, all true power, starts with YOU.
ONLY THE STRONG, SURVIVE.